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weekends

7 Dec

Weekends can be pretty rough for older adopted children.  I’m thankful that my little girls have each other.  However,Luke.

Most of his tears or minor run-ins with other family members, that turn into explosions and hurtful words, happen on the weekends.

In fact, most Sundays I slip into the pew with a heavy heart and a whisper to a friend who’s an adoptive mom, or dad, “not doing well..” and I’m so thankful for their knowing, relating.

He doesn’t have any. NONE.  CREATIVE-SELF ENTERTAINING skills.  NONE.

Praying for wisdom this morning on how to fill up his day as I run from birthday parties, team practices and games, little shopping dates with the children for presents… something that has no screen, a break from his books…

We have tons of legos from the big boys.  TONS

They were intense lego lovers.

Not Luke.

Right now he’s sitting next to me wrapping the christmas presents he bought for his family at the school’s christmas sale.  He is so sweet and so excited to give them to us.  He was very thoughtful in picking them out.

God bless and keep Luke.

God bless and keep Luke.

How are your older adopted kids handling the weekends??

Think I’ll text a friend to see if we can get boys together to play…

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4 Responses to “weekends”

  1. vengapronto December 7, 2013 at 11:02 am #

    Praying for you, especially for you, Laura.

    “Do you not know?

    Have you not heard?

    The Lord is the everlasting God,

    the Creator of the ends of the earth.

    He will not grow tired or weary,

    and His understanding no one can fathom.

    He gives strength to the weary

    and increases the power of the weak.

    Even youths grow tired and weary

    and young men stumble and fall,

    but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength.

    They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not

    grow weary;

    they will walk and not be faint.” (Isaiah 40:28-31)

  2. sharpfamily4him . December 7, 2013 at 12:12 pm #

    Oh Laura! So good to see your posts again! My son, Ashur (Biruk) has missed seeing the pictures of Luke:) It also reminds me to pray for you and your family- so keep em coming! Ha! Anyway- we experience the same thing with Ashur- he has recently learned the word “bored” which is a no- no in my house. I put kids to work that are bored! But it seems he has no idea how to just play and when I suggest something he never wants to do any of the things I suggest- cars, legos, games, etc. unless it involves someone else. I know part of that is from being starved for attention for so many years, and we try to meet those needs the best we can… but we all have lives too!! SO- i made a deck of cards and each card has an activity on it. When he doesn’t know what to do or is annoying everyone else, I have him choose a card-without looking (we used this a lot in the summer) He has to do whatever is on the card for at least 15 min. without complaining (usually it ends up being longer because he finds out he likes it) a few cards involve others, but most are things he can do- draw a picture, play with legos, magnet building toys, blocks, jump on tramp, ride scooter, etc… that has helped some and after doing it all summer, I can usually say– time for you to find something to do for a while or draw a card- he will find something on his own:)

    Hope that helps! Your posts really encourage me!

    Blessings!’ Christy Sharp

    On Sat, Dec 7, 2013 at 10:05 AM, My Great Eight wrote:

    > laurajonesjournal.wordpress.com posted: “Weekends can be pretty rough > for older adopted children. I’m thankful that my little girls have each > other. However,Luke. Most of his tears or minor run-ins with other family > members, that turn into explosions and hurtful words, happen on the > weekend”

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